Dealing with No Sex in Marriage
It’s time to be frank. If there’s no sex in your marriage, you’re missing out. Not only are you cheating yourself from creating a stronger intimate bond between you and your spouse, but you’re not getting the countless health benefits that a healthy sex life provides. Not to mention the glorious physical pleasure. Sex just feels good! So why aren’t you doing it more, why is there no sex in your marriage?
As time goes by in a marriage, the infatuation stage (where you feel “in love”) goes away, doing the same thing over and over again each day and knowing everything about your spouse can bore you and it is at this point that closeness and affection can fade. This isn’t to say that love and attraction aren’t present in the marriage, but if you let things go too far, larger problems can result, such as no sex in the marriage. But you still want an active love life with your partner, what can be done to fix it?
Is your spouse at fault for the lack of sex in your marriage? Maybe, but there are always things that you can do to improve the situation. Take a moment to think. Do you find yourself constantly tired, busy, no time to talk, relax and much less bring a little romance back into your marriage? See below to find out if your current habits are hurting your love life.
Top reasons for no sex in marriage are:
- Exhaustion (too tired to pay attention to your partner and light a spark)
- Stress (reduces cortical and testosterone, two important hormones needed for sexual arousal, on the other hand, regular sex can actually reduce stress!)
- Out of Shape (too little exercise and your sexual energy will suffer, not to mention your attractiveness)
- Lack of Sleep (like stress, sleep deprivation leaves your body drained of important hormones and energy needed for a healthy sex life)
- What You Eat (a healthy, balanced diet will increase energy, reduce stress, improve appearance and overall make you feel great, unhealthy food will do the exact opposite)
A big part of the solution for no sex in marriage is communication. If you find that you are guilty of any of the above, it’s time to take this to your spouse. Express your concern about the lack of intimacy in your marriage and let them know that you are aware you might be partly at fault. Explain that you are working to identify potential problems and that you are willing to change. Talk about how important sex in your marriage is and how special it can be. Your heart to heart session might just turn into something steamy, and so you’ll be very well on your way!
Often times your partner will turn you down for sex by making excuses, “I don’t feel good”, “I’m too tired”, “I’m too busy”, “Today I don’t feel attractive” and any one of a million others. However, many times these excuses cover up underlying reasons, but before you get too worried, and instead of getting angry, try talking it out. By knowing what is bothering your spouse and why there is no sex in your marriage, you can work together towards a solution.
Would you like to find out more about the problems that can cause no sex in marriage and real-world hands-on (pun intended) solutions that you can begin using today to take your sex life to a higher level of pleasure and satisfaction?